"Take nothing for granted"

In life, we have opportunities to manifest and create our reality.  What may have once been a vision could now be that certain reality or what may have been a vision may now be a dream of sorts.  All in all, we are here to manifest and create.  

I suppose I am touching on this because of the valuable lesson I have learned most recently.  I have learned to be careful and wise to all that appears to say one thing and define itself as the OTHER.  

This has made me a bit skeptical for the future but, I am learned and I truly respect lessons, so I will take all experiences as a potential lesson that I must learn.

This brings me to my new expectations and a new learning at this stage of my life.

Every experience leads us to reflection of thought and creates in us an emotion that can serve of greater value for the future.  Regardless of what we have been through, if we have felt pain, the pain is real likened to the fact that if we have felt pleasure, the pleasure is real.

Key points:

1.    Make all relationships matter

2.   Be cordial and nice to those whom you love

3.   Never assume too much comfort with one

4.   Verbal badger to those whom we care about is never acceptable

5.   Love with careless abandon and not skepticism 

6.   Be powerful through actions stemming from abundance not scarcity

7.   Create power in synergy and not a lack of it in feeling others are a threat

8.   Be a light to all that you come into contact with

9.   Follow the powerful giving heart and be the same

10. Tolerate Zero Negativity because it depletes the soul

11. Take nothing for granted

"Personal Growth"

Excerpt from the book "SoulMates" by Thomas Moore

In the practice of friendship, we might keep this important aspect of soul in mind: its need for containment.  Our capacity to keep a secret could be important to a friend who may feel free to talk to us in a spirit of confidentiality.  It often happens, too, that what goes on among certain friends has to be PROTECTED from other friendships.  Emily Dickinson's biographer Richard Sewall notes that Emily made a separate world of her various correspondents and friends:  "the letters to Higginson say nothing about Bowles; the letters to Bowles say nothing about Higginson; the letters to Helen Hunt Jackson say nothing about either of them."

Containment in a friendship is a powerful tool.

I need more Emily's in my life!

A loose tongue could kill the sacredness of two souls.  Tammy Delores Lier

5 EFFECTIVE STRATEGIES TO STRENGTHEN YOUR BRAND

1.  Take a "Reality Check" and figure out how you must freshen up your brand or simply re-invent your brand entirely

a.  Make a stand on what you represent which takes courage

b. Identify with what is working and what is not working in your world

2.  Define who you are and what you are about vs. what you do

a.  Start with your client first and this will drive who you are

b.  Involve yourself in something bigger than you by defining your true contribution to society        and your community

3.  Determine specific facets of your personal brand and qualities that give you the edge in the marketplace

a.  Start with service first and know that being weak at service is not an option, so start with great news and share that with those around you

b.  Know your presentation by specifically stating the clear points of what you offer

4.  Create your message:  Know your brief script on yourself

a.  Remember, 90% of what we do is psychology and 10% is mechanics and when you are describing your message, you must have it fueled with energy and passion

5.  Position yourself as someone who people call upon as "the expert" as it pertains to your business and your life

a.  Create a necessity of what you do vs. and option

b.  If you brand yourself as a part of life, and market with that rule in mind, people will make     you the go-to person for all of their needs pertaining your business

Famous Landscape Photographer, Peter Lik and Success Strategist and Speaker, Tammy Lier reach you through cards that inspire!!!

I have to share... okay, finally Peter Lik (www.peterlik.com), known as the world's foremost landscape photographer with 15 art galleries throughout the world, with art that truly inspires and Tammy Lier (www.tammylier.com) , author, success coach, speaker, t.v. personality and endorser of brands blah blah blah, you know her...

The two of them have created their incredible line of greeting cards!!

This is extremely exciting because they are set to launch their line of inspirational greeting cards and they are absolutely amazing!

For 3 years, Tammy has authored many quotes and has been in pursuit of the "perfect images" to match the "powerful quotes." It was in early 2008 when Tammy and Peter discussed the thought of Greeting cards attached to "power quotes" that would make a true impact.

Set to launch in November 2008(just in time for the holidays), Tammy and Peter will allow others to reach the ones they love and care about, in a special way!!

Peter is a phenomenal success story, he exemplifies true stick-to-itiveness and next week you can read about his constant persistence and pursuit of his vision and dream in Mondays blog on "Go For It NOW!"

HAVE A GREAT DAY!!

Bad luck or poor choices?

I am the first person to say that some of us have situations that occur in our lives which are certainly out of our control and put us in a predicament. I am also the first person to say that we find reasons to justify these predicaments as a thing of luck vs. a thing of choice.  I am certainly not talking about traumatic life altering events that occur in our lives such as natural disasters and other things that are the obviously not our choice...

I am saying, at the core level of anything that we do, we have made a choices relating to all that we do.

Let's talk about why this is so important to understand:

1.  Choice vs. Circumstance:  Coming from a place of choice allows you to take control a lot faster vs. falling into a place of victimization

EX:  If you are in a relationship that is not clicking, well it is your choice to stay in that relationship and continue to find many reasons to stay because it seems to be the convenient thing to do.  This is a simple example, however as time progresses, we start feeling like we are entangled in something, not through choice but because of circumstances and we blame our circumstances which first started as a choice!!!!!  Self-perpetuating cycle.

2.  Like=Like:  Have you ever known someone who seemed to be the coolest person with so much to like and they started hanging around you and they became even better?  If you have answered yes, I applaud you.  What about someone who actually gives you credit for them being a better person?  That feels nice, doesn't it?  Now let's take the opposite side of the spectrum, with the person who is around you and they seem to make you a better person, and cause you to think differently...

Question:  Is this the other person really making you a better person, or is it you appreciating the relationship, which is causing you to look at yourself a bit more positively, which is causing you to respond to yourself and others more effectively, which causes you to get the most out of your relationships and "situations" and as a result it appears that you have made a desirable choice?

Today:  Take a minute to look at your life and to really discover where you have made some not so effective choices.  Look at those choices and choose differently.  This sounds so simple, and it is not simple, I will be the very first person to tell you.  The main reason why this is not seeming so simple is because you may find yourself in a current set of circumstances that are all based on choices which more than likely originated, 10 choices ago.

START FRESH: MAKE A NEW CHOICE AND DO SOMETHING A BIT DIFFERENTLY THAT WILL EMPOWER YOU AND THOSE AROUND YOU!!!

t.l.

"You are only as good as your last blog"

Wow, I was slightly informed of some interesting news that has compelled me to first apologize for teasing you with my words and then abandoning your intellect and forcing you to find your mental stimulation elsewhere!!! No longer I say... No longer...

Yes, on tracking down every ounce of information that you can track down that will compel you to be better and operate at a higher standard of living.  Yes, on creating dynamic results that will allow you to be the best person that you can be.

I am a coach and I need some confirmation of YOU actually getting better!!!

So, let's make a deal:  I will give you unlimited amounts of powerful information and you will be the success story!!  I will simply award the best success story on September 1st.  I will announce the grand winner!!!!  Look, I know $100.00 for the prize is not much- but this is what we will do, we will create a blogography on you!!!!  We will tell the world who you are and why you were selected the winner.  And... when we get enough impressive stories, we will up the prize.  

Here are the rules:  From this day forward, every one of my blogs that you read, I want you to take the information and use it to better your life and 2 other peoples lives!!!!!

This is the deal:  If you can show me that you are utilizing this information to empower your life and have enough "go gettem" to empower those around you that you care about and have them help two others, how amazing would this be?????

So please take on this challenge wisely and I will give you a clue to who the winner will be:  THE WINNER WILL BE THE ONE INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS SHOWN AN OVERALL TRANSFORMATION. (this is all subjective of course but it spices life up a bit)

This will be a very fun competition and remember:  Be a winner not a whiner!!!!

Let's make life happen!!!

HAPPY BLOGGING AND CHEERS TO THE NEXT 30 DAYS!!

T.L.

INSPIRATION AND MOTIVATION

Let's face it, in these times we want to sink our brains into something that motivates and inspires.  I know that I am right on track when saying this because it seems that during any given day, at least one person will mention something about what's not working.  

DO THIS NOW:

What is working about your life?

What are you most excited about in your life?

Why are you most excited about this in your life?

These are compelling questions and redundant for a reason!!

Answer them now please, including my "gurus" and the like!

Have a great day!!!

"Infinite Possibility"

We live in an age where it seems so much is impossible which in essence... makes more things possible.  This profound concept forces us, compels us, inspires us, probes us and truly triggers a new line of thinking!

New ideas and concepts are expected! What about a new philosophy?  A new way of being?  Isn't this a true impact on a marketplace, a community, the globe?

How often are you freshening up your brand and your philosophy to match up and deliver exactly what you want the marketplace to know about you?

Pay close attention to what I am about to say next:  Everything that is said about you, reflects your work, and it is ATTENTION that is being placed on YOU!  Make no mistake, there is good press and bad press and the age old rule about PR:  Good or Bad, it's PR!  I don't buy into some of that philosophy 100% because there are things that we have to undue due to bad PR!! 

However my friend... keep in mind, it's what you do after the good or bad press!!

Everything we do, how we do it, what we say, how we say it and why we say what we say goes through so many psychological filters and carries out into an interpretation which then feeds into the microcosim of society and leads to a self-perpetuating branding frenzy!!!

AND THIS IS WHERE YOU ENTER INTO THE FINITE WORLD OF INFINITE POSSIBILITY!!!

Enjoy the ride, its FUN!!!!!

"The unsung HERO: The Tech Guru"

Who is in your back pocket? Besides an old piece of gum!!  This is the bottom line, in this very technologically savvy world that we are living in, it is a given to simply know how to email someone, and FYI, that is not considered high tech, just in case you were wondering.

Today we are giving credit where it is due!! Yes, I like to call him/her the almighty "technology guru"

Yes. Finally.  Let's be honest, without my Tech Guru in my back pocket, my photos, documents, marketing pieces,  blogs and innovative ideas would be all in my fantastic mind!!! And this does us no good!

I am serious about this, we are in an age of information times 100 and more than ever, we need to be able to access such information.

So, here are some pointers to look for in your "Tech Guru"

1.  Make sure they are far smarter than you in every way as it pertains to anything dealing with a computer and the great things that it can do.  (don't be threatened by their big brains, they are far more diligent than most and we want to recognize such a thing)

2.  If they come up to you with a bright idea, daily, than they are "in" and this means they have a pulse on what is going on in the world.

3.  Make sure they have the ability to create communication with many worlds, not just their industry but your industry and your competitors industry.

TIPS ON HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH OUR "TECH GURUS"

1.  Do not insult their intelligence by asking them to google something, they love google and have more than likely "mega-googled" before you could even finish your sentence or question.

2.  Praise them for their bright ideas-not that they really care about your praise, they just want to make sure that you are paying attention to the large amounts of information that they are throwing your way.  If you don't pay attention, they will dump you for someone who knows how to give credit where it is due!

3.  Utilize their ideas- look they have made your life easier and they know it.  Use their ideas sooner than later or their ideas will already be outdated and then they will fish around for more in the sea of technology.  They don't mind of course, but please don't let bright ideas pass you by!

So, to all of our "Technology Guru's" you are truly appreciated!!

T.L.

"OUCH!! THAT HURT"

Remember,  sticks and stones may break bones but names will never hurt me?

WRONG!!!

Words and language and the things that we say to each other is our communicative device.  What am I doing right now?

I am writing down my thoughts based on an assessment of my life or based on something that has happened in my life which is triggered by other words  that were handed off to me.  And... based on my experiences with other people.

So, if I am told something positive, I will think about it and I will think about it some more and then I will write about it and it then causes someone else to think and make a thing out of it.  Thoughts are truly things and things my friend, drive our behavior!!!!

This is always so fascinating to me and I am always putting this concept to use with the most silly things in my life.

When I am going somewhere and I need a parking spot, I think about how there is someone about to walk out and get into their car and free up the space that they have been reserving for me so I could park oh so conveniently. I think it (someone is reserving a spot for me), I speak it (someone is reserving a spot for me and it is waiting for me right now), and I create it.  All with thoughts...

It is quite fun actually to have the vip treatment in every parking lot I go to!! Give it a shot today.

LET ME TELL YOU WHAT IS UNFUN!!! hurtful words and hurtful thoughts, are very UNFUN.  And I highly recommend that we take a look at the words we use with others because we just may say something that will hurt someone and they may make a thing out of it and they may hurt others.

STICKS, STONES AND WORDS ALL HAVE THE SAME IMPACT IF THEY ARE USED IN A NEGATIVE WAY!!  WE HAVE ENOUGH GLOOM AND DOOM IN THE WORLD.  BE NICE AND SAY NICE THINGS!!!

Tam

All for not!

Wow, have you ever sacrificed everything for an opportunity to think for a moment there would be greener grass on the other side?

I come to you this a.m. with a distinction about the choices we make and those we choose to surround ourselves with.

Yes, I know I have mentioned surrounding yourself with champions in life and what happens when you've done that and you are the one who isn't the champion?

What happens when you are the one who is so driven by negativity that it affects the relationships around you?

What happens when you sell someone on a dream a goal a desire of hope where they sacrifice things such as relationships with other people and healthy balance and self-love?

I am always writing as if you are so enlightened and what if... just what if you are the one doing the hurting?

What does this mean?  This means that when you start pointing the finger as to why someone is not giving you what you need, just take a look at who you are being with that person.  

Listen, I am the first to admit that I am not perfect, but their is an integrity that comes with being a person who can honestly take a look at a situation and move it in a positive motion.  Part of moving in a positive motion is taking a situation for "face value" and recognizing  what is needed in a given situation.

I know this is food for thought, and believe me this comes from a few distinctions I have made myself.

Take all of the above for what it may be worth to you!

tam

"Paint only half of your face red and see who notices"

Have you ever seen the most amazing marketing campaign that has every bell and whistle that you could possibly imagine?  The best places to find such bizarre campaigns and strategies is when going to a trade show or industry show.  You see people all dressed up just attempting to grab the attention of every walker-by and attempting to create massive value and appeal in less than 3 seconds.

Commercials are no different, the hope is that in this day and age, we stay tune for just 5 seconds after a commercial break otherwise we have to get to our 5 different shows  that we are watching in between commercial breaks!

The reality is, we are in a different era of technology and our pace is faster than ever.   We process faster and we are less patient for the "traditional" sales pitch.  Look, when a caveman is pitching products on TV or a baby is working an electronic mobile device as an adult would, we have to grab the attention from our audience much quicker!!

So, we need to think pace and how can we make those more curious about our product, service or ourselves much quicker.

If you said to yourself, that you wanted to have people  stop and see what you have and who you are and what you are about...

And let's just say you decided to paint your face red!!!  I am sure that people would notice and say something about the guy or gal walking around with a red face.

But, what are you doing to get the audience engaged in more than just someone walking around with a red face?  

UNLESS... you paint ONLY half of your face red!!!  Similar concept, you are just compelling your viewer to think a bit differently!!! and perhaps they will ask why only have of your face is painted red!!!!

Hopefully you are getting this!!

RULES:  *BE NOT ONLY UNIQUE, COMPEL THOSE AROUND YOU TO ASK WHY YOU ARE UNIQUE AND DIFFERENT

                 * SAY LESS SHOW MORE

                 * BE MINDFUL THAT DIFFERENT IS BETTER THAN THE SAME OR AVERAGE

SO, DON'T JUST GO OUT AND STOP TRAFFIC, MAKE THEM WANT TO PARK THEIR CAR AND ASK QUESTIONS TO COMPEL THEM TO THINK.

HAVE AN AWESOME DAY!!!

GRATITUDE

Take a minute... and think about what key areas of your life that you are most grateful for.

Are you grateful for your family?  Are you grateful for being able to live a life of passion? Are you grateful for having a wealth of powerful experiences that have equated to who you are today?

My challenge to you and a gift only you can give yourself, is to put your focus and attention on what you are grateful for.

Step one:  Think of something that is in your life now that you never thought you could have or acquire.

Step two:  Create reasons why you are an exceptional human being and why you deserve to focus on the great things in life.

Step three:  Tell 3 people what you are most grateful for.

Now, this may seem a bit off for you in your busy world and may be challenging to pull off, but I challenge you just today, to be something different and add new dimensions to your life, people will notice!!

"STAY TUNED FOR THE MOST POWERFUL STRATEGIES"

Of course when it comes to success strategies I probably have 2 dozen journals with notes from the best of the best in the business.  Having had the opportunity to see many powerful speakers live, read many amazing books and have consistently turned my car into a "university on wheels;"  I must say that I am always looking for extremely powerful concepts, ideas and strategies that I can take to my clients and bring to the forefront of our thinking.

I am going to introduce you to two gentlemen:  Mr. Byron Nelson and Mr. Daniel Gutierez this week, and the information that they teach.  

Keep in mind, I will share with you what they are known for teaching their audiences and if you ever have the opportunity to see these two gentlemen live, please pursue the opportunity.

They speak, complimenting each others own personal style by bringing many elements to the table that relate to the way we do business and should do business.

Their topics include powerful networking, leadership, and creating results.  As known across corporate America, Mr. Gutierez teaches audiences on the unlimited possibilities of standing out into the market place.  Mr. Nelson, has quite a following who seek his information out on a regular basis in the areas of leadership and networking.

Stay tuned this week and learn learn learn!!!!!!

Look at who you hang out with, that's who you are!!

Look around... who is surrounding you?  You are who you hang out with ya know!!!!  Some of you want know that this is true and some of you don't want to face such a thing.  This is the bottom line... if those around you are limited in their thinking or belief that they can make something happen, this doesn't mean you are, it just makes the pursuit for success, happiness, fulfillment, wealth and a plethora of other things a little tougher to grasp onto at times.

You see, as a man thinketh, so he becomes!!!  Thoughts are things and the actions that we take correlate directly with the thoughts that we have on a regular basis and therefore, we are ultimately creating the results we are looking for out of life or NOT.

The reason that the people surrounding us are so crucial, it is all about their thoughts and their mindset which can help us or hurt us!  We previously discussed attitude and touched on this. What about the attitudes of those around us? ACTION STRATEGY: I make it real simple, if there is someone in my life who is a complainer, is negative, has an attitude issue, I simply tell them once and also warn them that I will disappear from regular communication with them because they have become extremely unattractive as a person.  Now, if they want help and they are coachable to new ideas and concepts, that is a different story.  I definitely will not participate in the rotten apple game.  We all have rotten apples in our lives, and these people may be great people yet they are not great for us to  be around for some funny reason!

So, this may sound bold, yet it may be time to clean out the fruit bowl!!!

Live Extraordinarily with Extraordinary People!!!

Get Noticed!!

I am thrilled to announce that Jill Lublin as I mentioned yesterday, PR guru, has come out with her 3rd book GET NOTICED!

I must say that all of you who understand the power of PR will truly appreciate Jill's book and find it incredibly beneficial!!

What are you doing to get noticed in the marketplace?

How is your current activity playing a role in your success on a short-term and a long-term level?

Are you raising your standards and expectations of yourself on a regular basis and are those around you doing the same?

Something to think about...

"Advertising you pay for Publicity you pray for"

Jill Lublin is one of my dear PR mentors.  She has taught for over several years, the art of powerful publicity.  Publicity is paramount and Jill has a way of sharing such strategies in such a simple form.  There are certainly some basic tactics that warrant fabulous PR moves vs. not so fabulous PR moves, I think we would all agree that if we don't take personal responsibility for our own PR we might end up in a very big sea as a drowning guppy!

PR rules:

Get visible- find a way for people to know about you through publications, BLOGS, events, books, and anything else that puts you in a light as an expert or someone special.

Speak in Sound Bytes- learn what I call the "elevator speech" and pursue your conversations with the intention of offering small sound bytes so people will remember who you are, what you're about and what benefit you have to them!

Create the ooh ahh factor- find ways to make people say "ooh ahh" about you, your product or your service that you offer.  Create and find new fresh ways and stick with the plan to have people interested in what you are about.

Again, I must credit Jill Lublin for the years of PR training which has made my life so much easier in a game that can be a little vicious at times, to say the least!

PLEASE GOOGLE: JILL LUBLIN AND CHECK OUT ALL OF HER BOOKS INFACT SHE HAS ONE COMING OUT ON FRIDAY!!! CHECK IT OUT!  I WILL WRITE MORE ABOUT HER STRATEGIES TOMORROW!

"Uncertain Times = Opportunity"

How many times a day do you hear about the price of gas?  How often are we bombarded by the news with the fatalities and natural disasters... and the high price of gas?  I am sure you get my point!!

What's the flip side to all of this?  Yes, the flip side is to get real with what is most important in life and to fear nothing.  Don't you see why?  Because at any time now, we could be faced with a very bleak situation, (apparently)!

The times that we are facing now make me want to not only make a difference but be the difference!

Always remember this lesson: In uncertain times, certainty matters, and those who are most certain make different life decisions that will change their destiny for the better!

Have the belief that in uncertain circumstances, you can create phenomenal opportunities for yourself and those around you!

Attitude is Everything!!!

I had an interesting experience last week... I was on an airplane en route from Las Vegas to Los Angeles and met a very interesting person sitting right next to me on the airplane.  So I am on the plane and after sitting for 2 minutes, I realized I left one of my phones outside of the plane, so I thought to immediately tell the flight attendant and the person next to me that I thought I left my phone in a seat, out in the airport by check-in.  The attendant was so kind and told me to hurry, get out, and check for my phone.  The person next to me was equally as kind to watch my briefcase and I was so focused on my prized possession of a phone that I ran out looked for it and guess what?  It was not there!!!!  Well, while coming back in to enter the airplane, I realized why I actually do have two phones, TO CALL MYSELF JUST IN CASE I LOST ONE! My briefcase watcher heard my phone ring and knew that I would be back in no time, happy as a lark and en route to LA with no issue!!!!!  Sure enough, I found my phone hidden in the depths of the bottom of my briefcase and it was hiding so well, I had to call it 3 times just to find it in my briefcase!!  Some of you reading, can truly understand this potentially traumatic experience!

Okay, so after I settled in, I had brief conversation with the individual next to me and we started talking about speaking and backgrounds, shows etc.  I knew something was different about this person and it was, I was sitting next to Mr. Dannion Brinkley, and those of you who do not know of this person please look him up and read up on him.  This gentleman is one of the most interesting people whom I've ever met!!  Could it be that he has an incredible story about his life that will blow people away and based on his story he wrote a NY Times bestseller, created a show, and a movie titled Saved By the Light?  He has a another book THE SECRETS OF THE LIGHT.  

Keep in mind, this man has had two near death experiences, and as I was speaking with him and learning at the same time,  truly realized that he sees a different life than most.  He had the best ATTITUDE!!!  He spoke of his beautiful wife Kathryn and his 5 beautiful girls along with other things he spoke of.  Yet there is one very strong characteristic I picked up on and that was his "realistic optimism" as I like to call it.

He shared such insight with me, I took mental notes and felt like I was back in college taking one of the most interesting courses!  We further conversed and talked show concepts and ideas that were prize winning concepts that have compelled me to execute one of my specific goals in my life a bit more strategically.

Now, after my personal growth course on the airplane and my life lessons that will basically take me from point a to point h not just b, what surfaced is why Mr. Brinkley even bothered to talk with me at such length!!! He said it was the "real" person who showed up when she lost her phone!!!!

Something to think about!!!!!

HAPPY MONDAY TO YOU AND KEEP YOUR ATTITUDE IN CHECK, YOU NEVER KNOW WHO IS WATCHING!!!

please visit and google : dannion brinkley

TL 

"Networking 101"

This entire week is devoted to networking!  I don' mean go to the night club and have a few, get a few names and there you have it, you've networked!!

Networking is very serious business and if you master the art of powerful networking you will increase your database and your net worth.

For starters, here are a few tips on networking:

1.  Know your outcome:  Why are you networking?  What benefit will other powerful people in your database do for you?

2.  Are you coming from a place of confidence or desperation when meeting people?

3.  Are you in the right stated of mind to effectively network with top notch people?

Hopefully this offers insight on the beginning of your networking journey!!!

"JUST LIVE"

Today... be a bit different and experience something new

Think beyond what others believe is impossible

Get a clear picture of what you want to see happen for yourself and GO FOR IT!!!

Live today!

This is in memory and in dedication of Graham Kahr's Grandfather who now blesses his family in spirit!

Tammy Lier

Video of the Week

Walking through a new door!

Okay... on this day I am going to address the power of correcting what you just said to someone.  I am finding a trend these days and I'm not liking the finding!  I am finding in our fast paced world we live in, that people are not giving their quality time to people who deserve it the most and they are saying things that they may regret later!!

In this, fast paced,  "can I get it done now" world, we have cheapened our relationships with each other.  This is all of us I am speaking to, I promise!!

Yes, I know I like to keep things positive, but when things need to be addressed, they need to be addressed!

You see, it's like walking through a door and finding out your in the wrong room, how silly would it be to stay in that room if that is not where you want to be?  More than likely, you would take the time to find your destination and the appropriate room would soon be discovered!

Saying the wrong thing to someone is no different, when you are speaking to someone, how difficult is it to say, "hey I didn't mean to say that," or "I just said what I said and it didn't feel right about it." Seriously, how difficult is it to realize in that moment, that you can walk through a new door in the conversation and create a whole entirely different set of circumstances.  I know this sounds so elementary, but if this were not such an issue, we would have better lines of communication among each other and I would be addressing a whole different topic.

THE SOLUTION:  Think before you speak!!!!!!! and if for one reason or another, you say the wrong thing, walk through a new door in the conversation and start fresh.  

People are way too valuable to us and we must cherish every relationship that means something!

Live a great day and have meaningful conversations!

 

What makes you think you want what you want?

The story is told how a young man asked Socrates how he could get wisdom...

"Come with me," Socrates replied.  He took the lad to the river and shoved his head underwater.  He held it there until the boy struggled for air.  Then he let him go.  

Once the boy regained his composure, Socrates asked him, "What did you desire most when your head was underwater?"

"I wanted air," the boy told him.

Socrates nodded slowly.  "When you want wisdom as much as you wanted air when you were immersed in the water," he said, "you will receive it."

In the same way, when you have a clear cut goal in your life or you want to overcome a mental block that has been getting the best of you and defeating you at times, think of how much you want to overcome such a block to acquire the goals you have set for yourself!

Oftentimes, I run into people who want something specific, so they think, and then what happens?  There's a price they have to pay to get it.  A big price.  Success is a funny thing, before achieving it, you have to pay for it upfront in full before receiving 100% of the benefits of it.  Notice I said 100% of the benefits?  NOT 90% of the benefits otherwise it's called something else like almost success!  

I CHALLENGE YOU TODAY!  

1.  Figure out what you want

2. Why do you want what you want?

3. What do you have to do in order to get what you want?

4. What is going to ensure that you are really going to get what you want?

It is in our nature to succeed!

Questions Drive our Behavior

When coaching people, I tell them often, I know no answers!!!!  I tell them, that they know all of the answers and I am merely an instrument for them to access the answers that they are looking for in their lives.  The best way for my clients to come up with an answer is for me to ask them a powerful set of questions.   The cycle of coaching is really quite simple:  I ask a question, my client answers!!  It's through their answers where the results occur.

The cycle is simple and the timing of the particular questions  is where the magic happens!  Take a look at a given day and evaluate the questions that are being asked of you.  Typically people ask questions to look for their answers.  If someone whom you know is looking for the salt, they ask, you answer!!!!

What if someone is asking you a question for you?  For your own good?  For your distinction?  For your destiny?  For your infinite possibilities?  For you to get better?

Although, where's the salt? is a valid question as well as, Do you need a ride to work? as well as, Did you pick up the copies?  as well as, Are you going to the birthday party? as well as, any other question that is as stiff and normal as possible. These are all necessary questions that must be answered.  But... where's the magic? 

What if you, just for today, really asked compelling questions to those around you?  What would those questions look like?  How much more in tuned would you be to the people in your life?  Where would it ultimately take the person you are asking?  Would you compel fresh ideas in someone? Would you inspire bigger level thinking which would lead to bigger results? Would you enrich the lives around you in far greater ways that you have ever possibly imagined?  

WELL MY FRIEND, YOU WILL HAVE TO ANSWER ALL OF THESE FOR YOURSELF!

the simple thing in life: love

Happy Sunday to all!  I must say that I am devoting Sundays to reflection and a closer look into what matters most, along with words of true inspiration.  I guess for the moment, I want to focus on what matters most.  What matters most are moments and moments are all we have. We have this shell that we sit inside called a body, and we have this feeling within called a spirit, and we have our minds, our very precious minds.  (You may be asking where I'm going with this and I must tell you to hang in here, I'm going somewhere).  

With all that we have, we make choices based on our desires, goals, needs, wants, and what we feel is appropriate for us to have at a given time in our lives.  Some chase things that they know are not achievable but that keeps life interesting.  I suppose what I am getting at this morning is quite simple, the bottom line is find something you love, and do it...

Find someone whom you love and tell them.  The most simple thing in life to do is to love! (Keep in mind you will only hear this mushy stuff on Sundays!!!!!  The rest of the week I am all business, but today is especially special and all who are reading this can feel me, I know).

Go about your day today with a single purpose and that is to extend yourself, change a life, make a difference and get that really cool feeling that makes you feel like you have purpose on this earth!!!  Drive and hunger is great but what you are driven by is PURPOSE!!  People and others create purpose for us and we are all creatures of purpose and habit.  Purpose is why we do the things that we do.

So go out today, and love purposefully those whom matter most in your life.  Be present to the dreams, goals and desires with an open heart and mind and simply come from a place of love! You will be amazed at what will occur for you, the feeling is PRICELESS!

Excerpt from my favorite book: (READ BELOW)

Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis and one of the most important figures in psychology, said that unless the personality has love, it sickens and dies.  Love includes understanding, goodwill, and respect for the divinity in the other person.  The more love and goodwill you emanate and exude, the more come back to you.

If you puncture someone's ego and wound her estimate of herself, you cannot gain her goodwill.  Recognize that everyone wants to be loved and appreciated.  Everyone needs to feel important in the world.  Realize that the other person is conscious of her true worth.  Like yourself, she feels the dignity of being an expression of the one life-principle animating all people.  As you do this consciously and knowingly, you build up the other person, and she returns your love and goodwill.

Live today with heart and soul,

Tammy

The 5 C's To Creating Successful Business Relationships

In my business, as in any business, there are fundamentals to success. In theory, fundamentals are quite simple. Because we are all human, we tend to make some things a bit more technical than necessary. Keep things simple.

Over the course of a lifetime, one can meet many people and in a given week, meet people who could potentially serve as a valuable resource in business and in life. The keyword here is “potentially.” Make the most of the people you meet and truly maximize the potential of that relationship and its role in your life using the five C’s to building key relationships.

In another lifetime, I worked with a very influential gentleman by the name of Tony Robbins. I lived in 25 cities over a five year period, which gave me plenty of time to master the 5 C’s; in fact, I mastered one per year (slow learner). I learned a few specific things while being on the road and one specifically, was how to produce extreme results in a very short period of time. I had to find ways to learn large amounts of information and have that information sound second nature and not scripted. The keyword is “learned,” not “memorized.”

1. CONNECTION
Making the initial contact and introduction can be a tumultuous process. I cannot help but make mention of one of my very intelligent clients, Graham Kahr, a well-known editorial director of a high-end publication. Graham has an outcome with everyone he connects with and it keeps any guesswork out of the connection process for him. He is in a fast-paced business, but the last thing he wants to do is lack sincerity. He puts himself in check before every phone call made. He asks himself what his outcome is. Keep in mind I said “outcome,” which can be as simple as getting a name or contact information. The key to connection is finding a sincere reason to pick up the phone or walk up to someone introduce yourself.

2. COMPLIMENT
Create a reason to be nice and give someone a compliment without planning on personal gain. You don’t need an agenda to show praise to those around you.

3. CREATE CONTACTS WITH AN INTENTION
In seminars, I love to ask the audience if they have ever come in contact with a taker - a taker of energy, a taker of dreams, or spirit. I learned a long time ago that we are not able to feel a certain way or cast blame on someone else unless we give consent for someone to make us feel a certain way. This is why the third “C” is so crucial. Creating contacts with the desire to contribute and give will attract the very best of people in your life. The takers will attract the takers and the givers will attract the givers. One of my clients, Olya Banchik, owns a high-end concierge dental practice and has a philosophy that she lives by - give to those who appreciate and find value in the power of giving. She has learned that this comes back twenty-fold. We attract who we are and this could not be more accurate in business.

4. COMFORT ZONE AND COMING OUT
Take the leap of faith. You have a product or service that is worth telling the world about, so go tell the world about it. Track those whom you know you want to connect with and meet up with them. I like to write out the top 20 things I’m uncomfortable with. These are the people that I may not know yet or I’m about to get to know. I’m ¾ through my list and I have to add more names to it. Quite frankly, this adds spice to life and pushes us in ways that are very powerful in order for us to grow at the highest level.

5. CONNECT IN THE FUTURE
Schedule the next appointment, only if you want to. How many times have you scheduled an appointment with someone that you knew there was absolutely no connection? The ball is in your court.

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