Bad luck or poor choices?

I am the first person to say that some of us have situations that occur in our lives which are certainly out of our control and put us in a predicament. I am also the first person to say that we find reasons to justify these predicaments as a thing of luck vs. a thing of choice.  I am certainly not talking about traumatic life altering events that occur in our lives such as natural disasters and other things that are the obviously not our choice...

I am saying, at the core level of anything that we do, we have made a choices relating to all that we do.

Let's talk about why this is so important to understand:

1.  Choice vs. Circumstance:  Coming from a place of choice allows you to take control a lot faster vs. falling into a place of victimization

EX:  If you are in a relationship that is not clicking, well it is your choice to stay in that relationship and continue to find many reasons to stay because it seems to be the convenient thing to do.  This is a simple example, however as time progresses, we start feeling like we are entangled in something, not through choice but because of circumstances and we blame our circumstances which first started as a choice!!!!!  Self-perpetuating cycle.

2.  Like=Like:  Have you ever known someone who seemed to be the coolest person with so much to like and they started hanging around you and they became even better?  If you have answered yes, I applaud you.  What about someone who actually gives you credit for them being a better person?  That feels nice, doesn't it?  Now let's take the opposite side of the spectrum, with the person who is around you and they seem to make you a better person, and cause you to think differently...

Question:  Is this the other person really making you a better person, or is it you appreciating the relationship, which is causing you to look at yourself a bit more positively, which is causing you to respond to yourself and others more effectively, which causes you to get the most out of your relationships and "situations" and as a result it appears that you have made a desirable choice?

Today:  Take a minute to look at your life and to really discover where you have made some not so effective choices.  Look at those choices and choose differently.  This sounds so simple, and it is not simple, I will be the very first person to tell you.  The main reason why this is not seeming so simple is because you may find yourself in a current set of circumstances that are all based on choices which more than likely originated, 10 choices ago.

START FRESH: MAKE A NEW CHOICE AND DO SOMETHING A BIT DIFFERENTLY THAT WILL EMPOWER YOU AND THOSE AROUND YOU!!!

t.l.